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adapt to change | strong girl series

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As I mentioned in the introduction to this series last week, I made a list of qualities & characteristics I believe capture the essence of what it means to be a Strong Girl. Each represents an important skill to be honed or acquired. Today I am going to focus on resiliency which is the ability to adapt to change. Resilience allows us to withstand adversity and bounce back despite downturns in life. It gives people the strength needed to process and overcome hardships, making it a core Strong Girl characteristic.

Those lacking resilience become easily overwhelmed, turning to unhealthy ways of coping during times of great stress (acting out, unbalanced sleeping or eating habits, dwelling on grief, denying reality).

So how do we adapt to change, loss, and adversity? The key is working through emotional pain and suffering; this can be done a number of ways:

  1. Cultivate gratitude, even if this means lowering the bar. Take time each day to recognize what went right in the midst of everything going wrong.
  2. Be compassionate and kind – we are all struggling. There is loss everywhere – jobs, homes, financial security, and lives. Do not lose your humanity as well. (Loss of one’s humanity occurs when love & respect for fellow humans turn to hate & contempt for whole groups.)
  3. Choose to face and accept reality. Instead of clinging to “what was” it is important to accept “what is.” Once we can accept what is taking place we can come up with a plan to get on with the business of living.
  4. Pursue everyday life with purpose. I am a gatherer-of-people by nature, it is what I do for work and in ministry. While COVID-19 has changed the way I act, it does not change my purpose. This means pursuing ideas for creative connection – working up a Plan B for my business and letting some very good things go. If you are struggling to find everyday purpose right now, take some time to think about the things that matter most. What are you good at? Brainstorm. Think of unconventional ways of pursuing meaning and purpose that don’t require breaking the law. Reach out to people virtually. Write letters. Make treats and drop them off at your neighbor’s front door.
  5. Don’t allow bitterness and blame to take root. This will only hurt you in the long run. Keep close tabs on your own words and actions; how might they be perceived by others? Focus more on your own behavior than the behavior of those around you.
  6. The way you reframe situations in your head defines you. Most people possess a negativity bias, focusing more on negative experiences than positive. Changing this tendency requires a shift in attitude. How might something good eventually come from this situation? What have I gained through this experience? What have I learned? How might this change me for the better? Reframe your thoughts to look at the brighter side.

To thrive in times of uncertainty, we need to learn to roll with changes taking place. Remind yourself that this too will eventually pass. In the meantime, focus on living well today!

Jodie - May 7, 2020 - 3:19 pm

Hi Tina, thank you for your ‘Strong Girl’ post. I was journaling earlier today about the Strong Girl qualities & characteristics you had listed. After reading thru what you listed, a light bulb went on – I could see a lot of those qualities in me… stirring within me to see myself as a ‘strong girl’. I don’t think I’ve ever really said to myself ‘Jodie, you’re a strong girl.’ I’ve had others say to me, “Jodie, you’re a strong woman”, agreeing with them, but not really seeing it totally as they don’t know all of what I struggle/battle with in my mind. I guess I tend to focus on the negativity of the struggle which keeps me from not totally recognizing I am a ‘strong girl’. I don’t like change – resist it at first. I eventually accept that it’s there and find away to adapt – resilient. It’s the journey of the struggle, bringing me thru the ‘change’, helping me to adapt that says, ‘strong girl’.

Tina - May 12, 2020 - 10:00 am

Thanks for sharing your insights, Jodie. I think it’s human nature to resist (what happened in the garden w/Adam & Eve, perfect example). I remind myself of that when I feel that urge to push back against change which helps me to lean in. Asking myself, “How can I roll with this instead of trying to stop it?” brings much peace. We are all on a learning & leaning. Thanks again.

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introduction | strong girl series

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Before Dreamer Girl 2020 took place in February, I was already working on the next girl-themed crafting retreat: Strong Girl 2021. Part of the planning involves immersing myself in the theme, soaking up information to pass along to the women who attend. It is always my hope they will leave inspired and encouraged to press on.

While preparing for Strong Girl in the middle of a worldwide pandemic, it hit me that everyone could use a bit of inspiration and encouragement right now. So I thought I would share what I am learning in a series of blog posts. Specifically focusing on what it means to be a Strong Girl. I began research as I usually do, with a dictionary to define STRONG:

Having the power to move heavy weights or perform other physically demanding tasks. Able to withstand great force or pressure. [Synonyms include: secure, tough, brave, tenacious, committed & determined.]

Then I made a list of qualities & characteristics I believe capture the essence of what it means to be a Strong Girl. Each blog post in the series will focus on one thing from the list.

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I hope you will join me on this journey.

Cindy Johnson - May 2, 2020 - 6:40 pm

Tina, can’t wait to read more on your blog. Perfect theme and topic for today’s world.

Tina - May 4, 2020 - 4:04 pm

Thanks Cindy!

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class of 2021 – book your senior session now & save $50

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The 2021 senior photo season is just around the corner and I am offering a discount for all sessions booked before June 1st that are scheduled for a summer/fall date in 2020.

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This discounted offer includes a 2-hour session on-location, unlimited outfit changes, and the entire image gallery on disc with permission to make prints, announcements, and enlargements on your own.

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The cost is $250/plus tax which reflects a savings of $50!  [Returning clients save an additional $25 off, click HERE for details.]  To take advantage of this offer, just click on the “Contact” button above and fill out the requested information.  [If you are reading this from a mobile device, just contact me by email (tina at tinavegaphotography dot com) to reserve a spot.]

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The most popular months for senior photos take place June-October; spots fill quickly so be sure to schedule your senior session BEFORE the 2020-21 school year begins to ensure availability!  If you have any questions, let me know.

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finding the new normal

Like you, I am working to find my new normal in this surreal season. The year began in a whirlwind with the loss of a dear friend and a dozen other things exploding at once. While it appears we could be in this holding pattern for a while, I need to move forward with the business of living.

© Tina Vega PhotographyI am continuing to schedule sessions for summer and fall in the hope we will have some semblance of “normal” by that time and a plan for moving forward. Details regarding Class of 2021 high school senior sessions will go up later today. Be well!

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an extended family session on campus | minnesota family photography session

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I met Kathy and her family for a session at the University of Minnesota. She’d worked on on campus for 40+ years which made this location especially meaningful.

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Here’s a peek at several more of my favorites from our time together:

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Thanks again for the fun afternoon. 😀

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