to pose or not to pose | tina vega photography

Over the years I have had several opportunities to share my story with groups of women. And after hearing about my experience, many have shared stories with me. What I learned is it’s the little things matter most after losing someone you love. After enduring multiple pregnancy losses, complications, and ultimately my dream for more children – embracing life in the moment helped heal my broken heart.

Photos and scrapbooks became the vehicle for that healing as I began to document life from a new perspective. I saw things differently, realizing for the first time that life was fragile, our time here brief. I was determined to embrace it fully – the good and bad. I had taken so much for granted and realized those were the very things I treasured and missed most.

For example, once I knew I would never carry a child again I really wished I would have paid more attention to the experiences with my two boys. Really wished I had pictures of my belly full term. Knowing I would never have another child made me wish I had taken more pictures of them as newborns. So many precious details.

I longed terribly to hold onto what was gone. This is from where my desire for the non-posed stems because I also realized that someday I come to miss these moments as well:

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The images above reflect the varied personalities of the people in them. They evoke emotion which helps me remember what life was like back then, both sweet and painful at the same time. Posed images on the other hand, trigger very little.


Looking at the two images above, I remember nothing! The images that matter most to me are those that are reminders of life. Especially now that my boys are adults. REMINDERS of who they once were, what they were like, and how we lived.

little goofball

Because every season in their lives has been just that – a season.

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A precious, passing season. And it is happening in your life as well! Simply spotting meaningful moments can be challenging – capturing them on camera… virtually impossible! That’s why I am introducing this new session format for families. The EVERYDAY FAMILY SESSION will provide clients with a series of images that evoke feelings and memories.

What is exactly is an Everyday Family Session? I can tell you easily what it is NOT. It is not about children behaving perfectly. Or everyone looking at me, the photographer. This type of session is centered around an activity that involves the entire family.  As you engage it and each other, I watch and capture moments as they unfold.

Your life. Your story. Captured.

Crystal Satnik - June 14, 2012 - 3:54 pm

So glad you are focusing part of your business on this… it’s one of the reasons I love your style so much. This post has reminded me that I need to get into more pics with my kiddo. I am pretty good at picking up the camera and catching ‘life.’ Now I am going to challenge myself to capture more of those moments with myself in them. My fav pic from this post is you and your youngest with the funny glasses! I love being silly with Olivia. Might have to set up the tripod and remote to capture some of our silly moments!

Tina - June 14, 2012 - 4:12 pm

You MUST pull out the tripod!!! (You can even prop your camera up on a chair while you play together on the floor.) As much as I hate the way I look in that picture with the silly glasses, Crystal, it is one of my favorites as well!! It is SO Lorenzo. We were “posing” with our new works-of-art when he started doing all of this goofy stuff… including the shot pictured here when he shoved his face into the camera. It was a fun, fun day – it reminds me of the days where it was just the two of us (his brother was in school). 🙂 You being in pics is so very important. Someday when you are gone, Olivia will look to her albums for pictures of YOU… memories with YOU. (You, momma, are a very important part of her story.) I’m so glad you’re challenging yourself in that way. Awesome!

April E. - June 14, 2012 - 8:49 pm

Tina, you do such a great job capturing these types of moments! I love the photos you got of our family a few weeks ago, and you really captured a ton of Isaac being himself (a crazy, 3 year old boy)! I know we will cherish these photos for a lifetime. I’ll have to share our story with you sometime…I definitely relate to the stories you’ve shared at faithbooking!

Thanks again for the session!

StaceyD - June 15, 2012 - 10:39 am

They were sooooo cute when they were little!

Tina - June 15, 2012 - 3:52 pm

Thank you, April!

I would *love* to hear your story… I’ll be asking about it next time I see you. 🙂

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