commitment = choosing to love, even when you don’t feel like it


I spent the afternoon with my grandpa.  There was talk of missing Grandma and her voice saying good night.  Her gravy… “she made the best gravy.”  And how beautiful she was when they were first married.

“I sure know how to pick ’em.”

commitment 1

True commitment.  Sixty-five years of working together to work it out.  Working together

commitment 2

“I was with her for most of my life.”

Even when it hurts, even when it costs us, even when we are tired of working.  Choosing to help each other instead of turning against each other when the going gets tough.  Choosing to love, even when you don’t feel like it.

Then I stumbled upon this beautiful slideshow and was a weepy mess.

Commitment doesn’t just happen.  Sixty-five years doesn’t happen without bumps along the way.  A marriage is a living thing that requires cultivating and planting and watering and nurturing and weeding and harvesting.  Has our fast-paced culture robbed us of the patience required to maintain commitment?   I wonder sometimes. 

I am determined to work with my husband instead of against him.  To nurture and protect our relationship.  To continue to dream together.  And play together.  In good times and in bad.  Because I want what my grandparents had.

Kim - November 13, 2012 - 12:03 pm

Me too = ) Thanks for posting this, what an awesome reminder that I am not alone in this journey! I will take your last two lines of this and keep them with me always…well said Tina!

Tina - November 13, 2012 - 6:08 pm

I was sort of thinking of marriage like a garden and that some of us tend to neglect it until the thing is overgrown with weeds. At that point, it can almost seem easier to give up on the garden instead of doing the work required to clean it up. Ideally, we should be actively maintaining the garden so that “weeds” and other intruders are addressed early on. We need to educate ourselves so we can learn to recognize threats in the non-threatening infant stage. [I have a picture I’ll have to share that clearly demonstrates this point and my utter lack of botanical knowledge.]

Thanks for your feedback, Kim. 🙂

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