Like most women, I have struggled with body image. As a teenager and young adult, I compared myself to images in the media and always fell hopelessly short. Negative self-talk dominated my thoughts, reinforcing feelings of unworthiness:
You’re too fat.
Your hips are wide.
Your nose is too big.
Your hair is weird.
For nine years I was caught in the grip of an eating disorder, scrutinizing every inch of my body and obsessing over every detail. I had no idea how distorted the view I had of myself had become until entering treatment. As part of the program, our body image was measured using a variety of techniques during pre- and post-treatment. The view I had of myself was compared to actual measurements taken by clinicians.
I find it so interesting that my view of the wood block was SPOT ON, yet I overestimated the size for virtually every part of my body! I think that’s why this video moved me so powerfully:
As women, we can be so harsh and critical of ourselves at times. This can even extend beyond physical characteristics as we ruthlessly judge ourselves as mothers, wives, sisters, friends… WOMEN. We compare ourselves to false standards fed to us through the media.
We compare and never measure up.
I can’t tell you how many times a client has sat before me – unhappy with her appearance, unable to see the beauty she radiates. It breaks my heart because I know that feeling; it prevented me from seeing myself clearly for a huge chunk of my life.
The thing of it is my lady friends, we need to stop comparing! Stop using others as the measurement for our own growth and contentment. Because if we don’t, the view we have of ourselves will remain distorted.
We will never measure up because were not made to be anyone else!
We need to treat ourselves with kindness, be gentle with our shortcomings, and learn to see ourselves through a new lens. It is time to embrace a new perspective.