Change is difficult. I like to know where I am going and what it will look like when I get there. Consistency and rhythm give me a sense of security. When change comes along (and it always does), I cling like crazy to “what was” instead of embracing “what is” – it often takes months, sometimes years for me to LET GO. I second guess every decision and wonder if I will ever feel at home in the new place.
Transitioning from one season of life to the next has never come easy for me. That being said, I am determined to face this next one head on. Instead of resisting, I will choose to rest in the unfolding. All the while reminding myself, I have done this before.
There are rich treasures ahead and I would hate to miss even one because my head and heart were stuck in the past. There is an opportunity before me to embrace new experiences, to lean into God’s presence, to adapt and thrive. If you find yourself in a similar place of transition, here are a few tips:
1. Consider taking on a project that will help make you more aware of the blessings in your life. Look for something lovely each day – write it down in your journal or take a picture. Keep a gratitude journal. Freshen up a room in the house with new paint, window treatments, or artwork. Spend some time outdoors.
2. Seek comfort in routine. This could be as simple as an early morning cup of coffee in your favorite chair. Or ending the week with pizza every Friday. Cultivating a healthy rhythm for your day/week not only brings peace but keeps you moving forward.
3. Journal. What could I be learning from this season I am in? What new experiences or relationships might be around the bend? How could this change benefit me in the short- and long-term? Am I trying to hold on when it is time to let go? What is the most difficult part about this transition? Does it remind me of something from my past? Where do I see myself five years from now? Ten?
4. Build into the relationships around you. Be a blessing by being there for others. Invite new people into your life. Make time for those who matter most.
5. Take care of yourself. Go for a walk after dinner. Do your best to get 8-10 hours of sleep each night. Eat when you are hungry, stop when you are full. Keep healthy boundaries. Leave open space on your calendar.
Above all remember that change is good, not something to dread. It is inevitable and necessary. We may not have a ton of control over when or what comes our way but how we choose to respond is entirely in our hands.